Dating again

I have now started dating again. And let me tell you, if you are in your late 20s, this isn’t too much fun really. Don’t get me wrong, it is nice seeing people and what not… But you have this feeling that you just don’t want to waste time.

I can only speak from my own experiences and point of view, but i am just too tired for bullshit. Cut the crap, and get to the real thing. No games. Just a healthy relationship.

Dating in this age group i would believe is the most difficult thing. People have become set in their ways, and know what they like and don’t like. Fair enough. Problem is then, that many people have “lists”. If you can’t check off all the boxes on their list, they will move on. Which is sad, honestly very sad.

Instead of embracing differences, many are looking for their copy. An equal on every level. For those people, i wonder; What then happens, if a situation you cannot handle emerges? Since you are both “one and the same”, what happens?

By all means, you do need to have some things in common with the person you intend on having a relationship with. Some shared values, maybe a shared interest, or sense of humor.
But PLEASE - for the LOVE OF GOD - do not go out there and try finding yourself in another person. If you want a “you”, go buy a mirror instead.

Look for a person whom you share some values with, a person you can have conversations with… But do not have a list of requirements that has to be ticked all the way from top to bottom, for even an initial conversation to happen amongst you.

The “ick” and “red flags” culture has gotten out of hand.
People are people. Which makes this hard, in our day and age.
Oh well. So it begins. A new age of dating, for me!

Abbi